This is really beautiful. There’s little to say other than we can do a better job supporting parents in their loss and in the celebration of their children’s life and legacy.
Watch this and enjoy the amazing amount of love you will feel…
“I want the baby I didn’t have.” “I feel like a bad luck charm around other moms.”
“I couldn’t understand why that happened to me…”
“His life was a good thing.” “People say really sad, crazy things.”
“We said don’t come and they came….that was what we needed.”
“I love to tell people about my son…I don’t get enough chances to talk about him.”
“His life was a good thing.”
“I’m not afraid to mention him.” “Why don’t they tell you about it?”
“You second guess everything you did, everything you didn’t do.”
“I don’t want another baby. I want the baby that I didn’t have.”
“I love to tell people about my son… I just don’t get enough chances to talk about him.”
Stephanie Yost says
Thank you for this.
Our second daughter was stillborn in August, and it has been such an incredibly difficult and heart breaking, heart opening experience. We love and miss her continually.
Its scary to do in a world where people may say hurtful things or say nothing, but I strive to say it out loud for my beautiful daughter Gemma. Break the silence.
Christina Babin says
Thank you for sharing this. I will definitely share this at our miscarriage and stillbirth support group next week. The families I work with often feel like they have a joined a secret club…a club they didn’t know existed and never wanted to be a part of. Teaching others in the community how to support these families is one of the greatest gifts we can give.
My sister-in-law has been visiting the grave weekly since 3/2009. One way drive takes her and the family 2 hours…
How about? Life means suffering-buddhism
When people ask if I have siblings, I tell them I have 3 sisters and 1 brother, who died before I was born. Some people are uncomfortable with my answer and others have compassion. Nevertheless I include him because he is indeed my brother, even though I never knew him. He was not a stillbirth, but born with birthdefects and died (crib death) after 13 months. For my brother I choose to break the silence, knowing that it may bring healing to someone else. So the video touched me alot. It reminded me of an article I read at Leadershipjournal.net . It was beautifully written by a pastor who coped with his unborn child having Trisomy 13, and then lived for 2 minutes. He chose to break the silence as well and I share his article with the hope that it may bring about some healing for others. Thank you so much for your post. It is a blessing.
Thank you for sharing this. I am one of the parents in this video, and someone who saw your blog told me they saw the video. It is great to have other people sharing it (other than those directly connected to the stillbirth world). Thanks for helping us reach out to others by sharing our story.
I’ve just watched born in silence and cried all the way through. Our gorgeous, perfect baby boy Fraser was born sleeping in November 2009. My husband can’t talk about our baby which breaks my heart because we created him together and shared the brief time we had with him. My mother in law told us it was our fault because we’d bought the pram before he was born.
I want to be able to break the silence and talk about our little boy, I want to break the silence so that more people are aware of stillbirth.